I let a guy go ahead of me in line. He looked impatient and I could sense that he wanted to hurry. So I just stepped back and ushered him forward. He was a little taken aback for a minute. I suppose he wasn't expecting me to do that. Then, he went to the cashier, did his business and moved on.
It felt good to be unattached to hurrying. I'm not always good at that so it was nice to practice it. I would like to practice that skill a little more often. Thankfully, I got the opportunity with that guy.
30 January 2011
27 January 2011
Money
Money is such a touchy subject for so many people. But money is just the representation of value on a piece of paper. Money is an agreement. You agree to provide a good or a service and I agree to trade you my money for that. It's just an agreement. Yet, we make such a big deal about it. Wars are fought over it. Marriages dissolve over it. It holds so much power over us.Yet, it just represents value. It is a result. Therefore, it is a reflection of value provided.
I work on detaching from my attachment of needing money. I like money. I want money. I like to use money both in getting it and giving it away. Most importantly, I respect money. My good deed involves lending some money to a friend. One thing I have discovered about lending money to a friend. You can't do it if you are attached to getting it back. Of course, I want it back but I am not attached. That's the paradox. Money flows where attention goes.
I work on detaching from my attachment of needing money. I like money. I want money. I like to use money both in getting it and giving it away. Most importantly, I respect money. My good deed involves lending some money to a friend. One thing I have discovered about lending money to a friend. You can't do it if you are attached to getting it back. Of course, I want it back but I am not attached. That's the paradox. Money flows where attention goes.
25 January 2011
A Friend in Need
I was tired last night. Really tired. I am in the middle of teaching an NLP Practitioner course so my days are long and filled with energy. I was concerned on my way home that I hadn't really done a good deed for the day in all the busy-ness. Yes, I gave my all to the students. Yes, I really made a difference in their lives. But, it didn't feel complete.
I got the opportunity late last night to go the extra mile for a friend in need. My tiredness fell away as I came into the state of helping my friend. It was amazing. I was listening and just being there, not necessarily trying to fix it or offer advice. Rather, it was just a witnessing of my friend in a tough spot. I was really overwhelmed with the honour of being able to witness his shift. I know he was grateful for my support but I was surprised at how much I changed as a result of my intention. What a gift!
I got the opportunity late last night to go the extra mile for a friend in need. My tiredness fell away as I came into the state of helping my friend. It was amazing. I was listening and just being there, not necessarily trying to fix it or offer advice. Rather, it was just a witnessing of my friend in a tough spot. I was really overwhelmed with the honour of being able to witness his shift. I know he was grateful for my support but I was surprised at how much I changed as a result of my intention. What a gift!
24 January 2011
Kiddies
I love looking for a way to help people. Even when I'm feeling really crappy it changes my focus and therefore my emotional state. I went for a huge snowshoe on Saturday afternoon with my sister-in-law and a some other friends. It was hard work. I was wiped out completely afterwards. My sister-in-law got a big headache that turned into a migraine. There must have been something in the air. She had to cancel her plans to go out that night and just hit the sack. It seemed that everyone in our family was wiped out, including me. I was in bed by 8pm.
That being said, I was up early. I'm an early riser on most days but after an 8pm bedtime, it's a given. With my new focus, I decided to give my sister-in-law and brother-in-law the gift of sleeping in. I got their daughter from her crib and cuddled with her and then set her playing with her cousins. Then, I put on the extremely slow coffee maker so it would be ready when they got up. Finally, I set to the task of making mickey mouse pancakes for all the kids (hers and mine). They loved it. And I felt so good to be giving (even the smallest gesture). I really love this project. It makes me feel warm and fuzzy.
That being said, I was up early. I'm an early riser on most days but after an 8pm bedtime, it's a given. With my new focus, I decided to give my sister-in-law and brother-in-law the gift of sleeping in. I got their daughter from her crib and cuddled with her and then set her playing with her cousins. Then, I put on the extremely slow coffee maker so it would be ready when they got up. Finally, I set to the task of making mickey mouse pancakes for all the kids (hers and mine). They loved it. And I felt so good to be giving (even the smallest gesture). I really love this project. It makes me feel warm and fuzzy.
23 January 2011
Simple Things
Yesterday I did the dishes for someone. I know it doesn't sound like much but there were a lot of dishes. There was a party the night before so there were piles of dishes and some of them with caked on goodness. I get up early most days so I decided to tackle the dishes before anyone got up. They were all done before the slightest peep from the bedrooms. No one knows who did the dishes so I guess they won't ever know unless they read my posts.
22 January 2011
Friends
Good deed for yesterday involved bringing dinner to a friend's house. Her husband was away on a business trip and she has two kids. I know what it's like when you're solo-parenting so we cooked up some dinner for all of us. It was a fun night with great conversation and good wine.
I am finding that looking for good deeds to do has me focused in a totally different manner. I am always on the lookout for what I can do next. There are days when I like to pre-plan my deeds and other days when I like to fly by the seat of my pants.
I am finding that looking for good deeds to do has me focused in a totally different manner. I am always on the lookout for what I can do next. There are days when I like to pre-plan my deeds and other days when I like to fly by the seat of my pants.
21 January 2011
Bring Your "A" Game
My good deed today involved giving my "all" when I wanted to give up. I had a very challenging situation yesterday - almost more than I could handle. Almost. But not, quite. A little voice inside my head reminded me of my commitment and my passion and my vision. It reminded me what I was all about. Somehow I found the strength to do what needed to be done. And it made a huge difference for someone. Plus, it changed me.
It felt like the part of the movie, The Grinch, when the Grinch's heart grows three sizes. I felt something inside of me grow out of nowhere. The challenging situation actually made me a stronger person. I was looking for a way to help yesterday. I was looking for a way to serve. I found it. And it served me.
It felt like the part of the movie, The Grinch, when the Grinch's heart grows three sizes. I felt something inside of me grow out of nowhere. The challenging situation actually made me a stronger person. I was looking for a way to help yesterday. I was looking for a way to serve. I found it. And it served me.
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